Stranger's Reactions to your Clothes?

[Heirloom]

not at all...I didnt even look that much into it when I typed it.
by your standards then, even faust's initial comment can be interpreted as receiving the "gay" comment as an insult.

ok then, i guess i was just being politically correct. Since I don't think someone saying gay aimed at you is an insult, saying lesbian back isn't one either. a slap is though. So I think you're wrong there.

[Faust]

For the record, I was just being funny. Carry on with the fight.

[scott.m]

i was at some party tonight in the east village and this drunk girl starts rubbing my arms and touching me alot, she complimented me on my geller bag and my kumagai knit saying how nice it was, i blushed, thanked her and complimented her and went back to drinking. not always a negative reaction so i'm happy with that.

[Mail-Moth]

i was at some party tonight in the east village and this drunk girl starts rubbing my arms and touching me alot, she complimented me on my geller bag and my kumagai knit saying how nice it was, i blushed, thanked her and complimented her and went back to drinking. not always a negative reaction so i'm happy with that.

And you didn't propose her to feel the softness of your Julius boxers.


Aaaaaawwww, what's wrong with kids today ?

[Faust]

i was at some party tonight in the east village and this drunk girl starts rubbing my arms and touching me alot, she complimented me on my geller bag and my kumagai knit saying how nice it was, i blushed, thanked her and complimented her and went back to drinking. not always a negative reaction so i'm happy with that.

May I ask you - was she ugly? Cause I'm not following the sequence of events.

[Stack]

May I ask you - was she ugly? Cause I'm not following the sequence of events.

That's exactly what I was thinking because that didn't make a lick of sense

[cabl3]

ok then, i guess i was just being politically correct. Since I don't think someone saying gay aimed at you is an insult, saying lesbian back isn't one either. a slap is though. So I think you're wrong there.

Looking at it from that frame of reference then you are right (as I'd be hard pressed to find an example within any kind of context in which a slap would not be an insult...maybe if it had been a slap on the ass? lol ok i'll stop now).

I was just being funny though; when people think, ask me or my friends if I'm gay (it happens quite a bit, people are pretty ignorant when it comes to style in texas) I dont get offended at all. As you said, it's not an insult, rather a confusion that emotes from my apparent reason for dressing the way I do and the fact that they live under a rock.

[Nospheritu]

First post, maybe take it with a grain of salt, but I wanted to chime in on the 'gay' comments as I also get that quite often.

I think that straight men in general react to this as an insult because of the tone used by the person accosting us, and the choice of insult is irrelevant at that point.

Basically the person calling me gay perceives it as an insult, and I will take it as one because of the intent behind the words, not the words themselves. If someone genuinely asks the question it's not insulting in the least... Why it is that men in general can't have a sense for style or fashion without people wondering?

[Faust]

/\ That is a good point. As to your last question, I think this is a much more American/Anglo phenomenon.

[scott.m]

May I ask you - was she ugly? Cause I'm not following the sequence of events.

hahah lets just say she was not the top pick of the night, but i still wouldn't mind showing her some grandma+ cashmere undies ;) i'm just coming out of a relationship so i'm off my game

[ProfMonnitoff]

Scott which girl was it?

[scott.m]

the blonde girl i was talking to while you came in from the other room, by the alcohol

[Stack]

hahah lets just say she was not the top pick of the night, but i still wouldn't mind showing her some grandma+ cashmere undies ;) i'm just coming out of a relationship so i'm off my game

When they're drunk, you don't need game. Just keep their cup full and you're good to go.

[Faust]

hahah lets just say she was not the top pick of the night, but i still wouldn't mind showing her some grandma+ cashmere undies ;) i'm just coming out of a relationship so i'm off my game

Ah, that's understandable. You'll pull through, I am sure.

[scott.m]

well theres a number nine party tonight so round two i guess